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Love and Logic 

**Why we chose this topic**:

Love and Logic is a behavior management philosophy for both parents and teachers. It is based on empowering students to take responsibility for their own behavior and enabling teachers/parents to avoid power struggles through sharing control with students. We learned about Love and Logic through our work at Outdoor School and have found it to be a very effective approach. It offers ways to deal with the most situations you will encounter with students on a day to day basis and incorporates many of the concepts and techniques we have learned in Human Relations. Love and Logic is a model that is taught to people through professional development workshops, community centers, and through resources on their website. It was developed by teacher and administrator Jim Fay and Dr. Foster Cline in 1977.

Top 5 Things About Love and Logic 1. Use ** enforceable statements ** to set limits by telling students what you are going to do, so that they can choose their own behavior. These are often “I” statements that let students know what you are going to do instead of giving them rules. "I'll be glad to listen when your voice is as calm as mine." "I offer credit for work that is on time and complete."

2. Use an instant ** empathetic response ** for arguments and complaints : “Bummer”, “I’m sorry you’re feeling that way”, “That sounds frustrating”, “I hear you”. "Thank you for noticing that." Do not attempt to reason with the child or explain your position. Simply decline to argue. 3. Offer ** choices ** to give kids a sense of control: “Feel free to do anything that doesn’t cause a problem for anyone else.” "Would you like to complete the assignment now or at home?" Do not offer a choice if you are not willing to let the child experience that consequence of either choice. 4. Before offering advice in challenging situations, ask students ** to solve their own problems .** Ask what they think they should do to help promote self-motivated problem solving. 5. Let students know you need to ** wait to discuss an issue ** in more detail to refrain from participating in a power struggle or argument. This is called using a delayed consequence. Remember that oftern winning a power struggle is more important to a student than making a good choice. Use phrases like, "I cannot talk to you about that right now, but we will need to discuss this later". "Try not to worry about it right now."

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 * Our Top Resource**:

The Love and Logic Institute runs this site with resources for parents and educators. Articles and video clips are available online under “Free Resources for Teachers”. There is also a “help me find a solution” tool where you can search for ideas to deal with particular student management problems. The website also sells books and has classes and seminars for teachers. Rating: 5/5


 * Additional Resources**:

1. Website link: [] A direct link to a pdf listing peer-reviewed articles involving research on Love and Logic techniques. If you are particularly interested in an aspect of Love and Logic and want to learn more, this a good place to start. Rating: 5/5

2. Video: I Noticed [] This video describes a way of build rapport with students by using simple "I noticed" statements instead of praise. Rating:5/5

3. Video: Love and Logic works with spouses [] This video uses an anecdote to show the power and reinforcement of love and logic for future decision making once individuals have worked through a problem in this way. Rating: 3/5

4. Video: Love and Logic teaches empathy [] This video gives an example of how to use empathy when students come to you to solve a problem and how you cam empower them to find their own solutions. Rating: 4/5

5. Video: Importance of Modelling [] This video discusses how teachers and parents can role model positive attitudes about school and learning, as well as model motivation and inspiration in their own lives. Rating: 5/5

6. Video: Angry Kids [] This video discusses how to use short, empathetic statements to diffuse anger, such as “I hear you.” Rating:5/5

7. Video: Turn Words to Gold” [] Demostrates how to use enforceable statements instead of demands. Rating:4/5

8. PDF: This hand-out gives examples of ways to use enforceable statements and provides sample statements that are geared towards a parent audience. Rating: 3/5

9. PDF: This hand-out gives examples of one-liner responses to use when students express frustration or concern. Rating: 5/5

10. Powerpoint Presentation: This presentation goes through the history, theory and practice of Love and Logic and gives tangible examples of how to use it in classroom management circumstances. Rating: 5/5

11. PDF: This hand-out gives a guide for teachers in creating a Love and Logic based classroom with examples of how to incorporate it into a school-wide philosophy as well as example classroom rules. Rating: 4/5

12. Article: Practicing Love and Logic can mean happier schools.

This article offers tips for implementing Love and Logic at your school, information the history of the program, and why it works. Rating: 4/5 []

13. Video: Giving Choices [] Jim Fay talks about how to give choices effectively and what to do when you need to make the decisions. Rating: 5/5.